In 2016, I made a discovery. I cannot claim it to be a new one, but in the fact that it is a concept that continues to be recycled over and over, in the realms of both spirituality and entrepreneurship, it is one that must be retold.
There is comfort in death that I had not known before. I came to this realisation in a time of facing multiple challenges and stresses in my life, in my health, studies, work and finances. I realised one day in the midst of it all that in fact, remembering death helps us strip away the ‘bull-crap’, leaving behind what is plain and true of our spirit – reminding us of what matters above anything else, of our passions and dreams that we have been put on this earth to pursue.
Death, I thought you were an enemy, yet you were rather my truthful friend. In my lowest moments in those times in 2016, when I’ve had to endure physical pain from a health condition without a cure, pain that ran deep past just the skin receptors, because it penetrated into my insecurities over my body image – death, you reminded me the scars on my body that I may have and that may remain with me won’t be what matter in those last breaths of life. In those moments in 2016 of quiet affliction, where relief would only be momentarily felt through the release of tension from the tears that would stream down my face – death, you reminded me that I am still alive and that perhaps there are others also suffering in silence, who may find some relief in these reflections.
So no matter what you may be going through, ask yourself – would it still matter in your final hours of life?
Even more importantly, what does matter to you that you should be doing right now, so you don’t eventually become another statistic, just another person who died with regrets.
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” -Steve Jobs
There is death in comfort that I have always known. It is the reason I have ‘shyfted’ throughout my life from one profession to the next, from one career, one project, one business idea to another. When I am not learning something new, when I am not growing, I am dying.
This reality is one many of us ignore – until our spirit can no longer withstand the malnourishment any further. After which, we find ourselves, our bodies revolting against us, complaining through ailment after ailment of its thirst for new life.
And so, there is death when we ignore the need to move out of our comfort zones that is the unspoken need of every spirit.
So if you know you have been stagnating from remaining stationary for too long, if your body has perhaps tried to tell you of its discontent through some sickness or another, my challenge to you is: find out what does matter to you and act on it right now, so you don’t eventually become another statistic, just another person who died with regrets.